There’s a certain ritual many of us women know well. It usually happens when the seasons change, or maybe after a little… life happens. We stand in front of our closet, a hopeful glint in our eye, and pull out that one dress, those favorite jeans, or that stylish top we haven’t worn in a while.
You know the feeling. You hold it up, imagining yourself in it, feeling confident and put-together. Then comes the moment of truth.
You slip it on. Maybe it zips halfway. Perhaps the buttons strain with a silent protest. Or maybe, just maybe, it doesn’t even come close.
Instead of a wave of disappointment washing over you (though let’s be honest, that can happen too!), there’s often something else: a spark. A quiet determination. You look in the mirror, not with self-criticism, but with a thoughtful gaze.
“Okay,” you might say to your reflection. “Not today. But maybe… soon.”
This isn’t about squeezing into clothes that are realistically too small or chasing an outdated ideal. This is about acknowledging where you are now and setting a gentle goal for where you’d like to be. It’s about envisioning yourself feeling comfortable and confident wearing them again.
For me, it’s a few things. I have a dress that I have owned and never worn out. A goal dress. A pair of jeans I bought a few years ago, but they don’t fit the way they used to. They fit perfectly, then. Now, they sit patiently in my drawer. Sometimes, I pull them out. I don’t beat myself up that they don’t currently slide on with ease. Instead, I use them as a tangible marker.
They represent a goal. Not a drastic, punishing goal, but a gentle nudge. A reminder to be a little more mindful of my choices, to move my body in ways that feel good, and to nourish myself well.
It’s not about the number on the tag. It’s about how I feel in my clothes. It’s about the energy I have and the confidence I exude. Those jeans, that dress – they become little milestones on a personal journey.
So, the next time you find yourself in front of your closet, don’t let it be a moment of negativity. Instead, see it as an opportunity. A chance to reconnect with yourself, to listen to your body, and to set intentions for your well-being.
Maybe that dress will fit again in a few weeks, maybe a few months. And maybe it won’t, and that’s okay too. The real victory isn’t fitting into a specific size; it’s about the journey of self-care and the positive steps you take along the way.
What about you? Do you have those “goal clothes” in your closet? What does that process look like for you? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Sending all the love. Until next time.
